Self-Development after 60
I’ve never seen anyone talk about the benefits of exploring self-development after you’ve reached an age where you’re assumed not to need it. As a young adult, self-development is a way of defining your potential and identifying your goals, whether personal or professional. As an adult in your 40s or 50s, self-development is typically seen […]
The risks of waiting for a better time
If you are over 40, you already know this. You already have a list of things you will do when the time is right. The courses you will take. The places you will travel. The activities you will try. Later. When the time is right. There are good reasons for waiting. You are 100% engaged […]
Rolling with the punches
Do you know why people need to roll with the punches? Like many metaphors, it is more direct and more pragmatic than you might expect. A boxer learns to roll with the punches instead of encountering them head on with resistance. They learn because taking the punches hurts more than rolling with them. Aikido adds […]
What’s the difference a workshop and a certification?
Something new this week: Here’s a transcript of a video I just posted on YouTube. Here’s a question that people don’t ask me that I wish they would ask.I wish they’d ask, what’s the difference between taking a bunch of free workshopsand taking a certification training? And I wish they’d ask that, because I know […]
What inspires you?
Wouldn’t you like to find an idea or a goal that pulled you forward? A belief that something you did would matter? A grace that might grow your strengths and accomplishments? We often think of inspiration as a gift, a feeling that arrives out of nowhere and tells us the right answer. Sometimes that might […]
Choices in transition
I love to walk along the edge of the water, wandering in and out depending on the footing and the waves. It’s a good metaphor for moving through a transition. The edge of the water changes from one step to the next. Transition begins before change happens. Like the pressure of weather and waves on […]
Practice taking smaller bites
If you want the enjoyment of good food to last longer, take smaller bites. As much as you might want to gulp down several large bites of something delicious, the excitement gives way to a feeling of eating too much too fast. Eating mindfully has many advantages. This is also really good advice for making […]
When purpose kicks in
Have you been in this situation? Someone you love is experiencing symptoms that send them to the emergency department. For several hours, you know that the danger is not immediate (no one is rushing), but you also know the problem could be life-altering. You probably don’t want to leave to find food or drink, and […]
Uncover the important
There’s a difference between being brief and being productive. What springs to mind easily is always what we have thought before, and it often doesn’t begin with our own thought. The familiar is always readily available and the familiar includes all the false and half-true things that we have ever learned. The familiar reinforces the […]
How to be confident enough to say nothing
It used to be called holding your peace. Many people think it means to say nothing. But actually, it means something like knowing when more talk won’t help. And, paradoxically, it doesn’t start out feeling peaceful. It feels like an argument with yourself. What happens when somebody says something outrageously unfair? Maybe there are people […]