What’s stopping you?

7 February 2026

By Linda Ferguson

Afraid to dig deeper? Dog digging a hole in the grass

The people who arrive at NLP Canada Training are often ready to get to know themselves better. But I wonder about the people who don’t make it into the workshops. Do they think that digging deeper means uncovering all the sore spots? Do you think that self discovery means diagnosing what is wrong with you?

This is probably the biggest stumbling block. The only way to get better at anything is to develop a better knowledge of the skills and strengths you already have. These are foundational to every activity and to all of your success.

But exploring yourself can feel risky. Many people believe that they will open up old wounds or uncover the parts of themselves they would rather not think about. They are afraid of themselves, afraid they are not good enough. And that leads to unpredictable behaviour and predictably erratic results.

Whatever is scary in you is something you are already living with. You don’t have to be scared you can’t handle you: you’ve always handled you. When you are curious about yourself (instead of judging yourself), you will find unexpected strengths and perspectives that open up new possibilities for your. You might find passion, or purpose, or peace. But you will only find them if you have the courage to look inside.

The self discovery we lead at NLP Canada Training is supported and positive and hopeful. It leaves people with a new light in their eyes and renewed courage for facing their challenges.

Share this post:

Related posts

Senior woman engaging in self-development activities with NLP training tools.
15 October 2026

Self-Development after 60

What does self-aware mean at 60 and beyond? It means being able to experience your fullest, best self at the same time that you can step back and see that self moving through unchosen transitions. Where will you live? Who will matter most to you from one day to the next? What purpose will call to you? Who will you be as you become untethered from the identities that preoccupied you while you were building a family and career? Think of all the things you wanted to do and all the things you wanted to be “if only you had time.” Think about grandparenting (not necessarily of biological grandchildren) and the role that elders play in supporting the young (probably not with advice). Think about the self that connects all the different people you have been and will be.
A lush green tree with a sturdy trunk against a blue and white background.
6 October 2026

The risks of waiting for a better time

If it doesn’t really matter to you, don’t sweat it. Don’t put it off for a better time. Put it aside. But if you think it might matter to you, find a way to do it now. Despite its endless pressures and distractions, now is the better time.
Painting of a canal with a wooden walkway, trees and a red brick house
3 October 2026

Transformation starts in the senses

People want reframing to start with cleverness, a James-Bond-like ability to use a gadget or a quick move to change who is winning. But the beginning of reframing is framing: putting edges around a situation so that you can focus on the details inside the frame. Life is a movement between the moment, full of vivid details, and the future, which is hazy, moving, or shifting. Without movement we are stuck. Without the moment, we are lost in the haze.