Build Integrity through Integration

How do people know they can trust you? You might say something like “I walk my talk.” NLP says, let’s look at that. People trust you when your physiology (your walk) matches the impact of your communication (your talk). You are always communicating through your body and through your words. In NLP, we say that […]

Three rules for asking better questions

I don’t like rules and break them whenever it seems helpful. But If we think of rules as lines that separate out lanes so people can move safely, then these are rules to help you notice how to introduce better questions into your conversations. These are rules like the lines on the page. There are […]

3 Lessons from Editing with ChatGPT

Lately I have been checking my work by discussing it with ChatGPT. I suspect that the lessons I am drawing might not be typical LinkedIn lessons on how to write better prompts. They are a good grounding in how NLP can be used to scaffold critical thinking. It’s definitely useful to receive immediate feedback on […]

Learn from different (not always better)

Within NLP, the concept of modelling is often taken to mean “find someone who does something really well and figure out how they are doing it.” This is common sense. Like so much common sense, it leaves some questions: • what if I don’t know someone who is really good at what I want to […]

The antidote for uncertainty

Step back into a moment when the world had changed for you. Maybe you held your baby and had no idea what to do with the overwhelming love and the almost equally overwhelming anxiety. Maybe your business was failing or growing in ways you didn’t see coming. Maybe someone made you an offer and you […]

Why it’s hard to practice (and why you should do it anyway)

You know you should practice, whether that means going to the gym, picking up your guitar, or building a skill you are developing at work on in a training. No one ever says, “this is worth doing, and I’ll pick it up overnight and be a master.” But it’s hard to make time for something […]

Can you believe it if you can’t articulate it?

Have you ever tried to start a message, whether you’re writing or making a video, and you just can’t find a place to start? I have. I have stared at the blank screen. Then written. Then deleted. Then wandered away. And came back again. I know there is something in me that wants to be […]

Bullet holes in airplanes and other challenges

There’s a famous story about World War II planes that survived attacks. They were studied to see where they had been hit, and the results were mapped. The map showed some dense clusters of hits, and some experts recommended that planes be reinforced in these areas. But Abraham Wald disagreed. Wald argued that they should […]

The body changes the story

We all know that looking after our bodies can help both our mental experience and our productivity in the world. But it seems to require so much effort and support. We need time and money to get to the gym, change our eating habits, or get enough hours of sleep. Often, the big changes in […]

From seething to focus

Do you remember the moment? For me, it came when I was in grade one. I wanted to love school and love my teacher. But the teacher who was nice to me was mean to another child. And once, she made the whole class sit on our hands as punishment for something only a few […]