What’s stopping you?
The people who arrive at NLP Canada Training are often ready to get to know themselves better. But I wonder about the people who don’t make it into the workshops. Do they think that digging deeper means uncovering all the sore spots? Do you think that self discovery means diagnosing what is wrong with you? […]
Holding the flashlight
Sometimes, we have to depend on ourselves to shine the flashlight so we can move forward. A bright spot in memory is like a spotlight on a stage: it shows you one thing in bright light and dims out the surroundings. To turn that bright spot into a flashlight, you have to point the light differently so that it helps you focus or move in a new direction. You can easily imagine doing it with a real flashlight.
Do you need a plan or a flashlight?
Have you ever tried to follow a map in the dark? While it’s great to have an image of the steps you need to take, it’s not easy to apply if you can’t see the way forward. It’s often true that we make plans, and then it gets dark: something changes in the world around […]
How to set goals that work for you
Too often, people think they know what they want without understanding what it will take or how it will fit into their lives. Then instead of rethinking, they ask a coach to help them commit. But you should only commit to goals that will help you create the life you want to live. Why is […]
A simple model for making change
When I wrote my first book, Living Your Purpose, I printed the summary on the front of a postcard. I wanted to show people that using the fingers on one hand, they could remember how to make change for themselves and others. All change starts with building awareness of the situation you are currently experiencing. […]
Coaching presence with NLP
If you’ve studied at a coaching school, you know that coaching presence is one of the ICF core competencies. The description can be confusing in that it’s not easy to know how to be curious, engaged, manage your emotions, and allow space for reflection, all at the same time. People deal with the problem either […]