How much thought do you give the everday?

21 August 2026

By Linda Ferguson

Not Everyday, pair of red high-heeled shoes on a blue background

Take a moment to play a game. Would you rather be happy in the moments that happen every day, or be happy only when something extraordinary happens? Most people want to be happy more often.

Now take a look at what you are willing to change and ask yourself: am I giving enough thought and energy to changing what happens every day?

Our lives go by so quickly, one moment after another. Most moments unfold without our thought: our brains (or unconscious minds if you prefer) organize our reactions and behaviours without thinking. Many of those auto-pilot actions and reactions are useful. That’s why we do them. But they are all limiting. They are all based on what has happened and not on what we would like to happen next.

What if you stop and really notice what you are doing? What if you ask yourself: is this going to achieve something good? What if you test a tiny change?

It’s really hard to make big changes in the things we do every day. All our automatic behaviours pull us back into doing what we’ve always done. But a tiny change, chosen to require just a very small amount of willpower, can sneak through the filters. And the next day, because it takes just a very small amount of willpower, you might do it again. Until it becomes a new way of doing.

Find the point in your day that regularly derails you; the task or interaction that requires way too much energy. And test one tiny change. Then make it again tomorrow.

Discover what difference tiny, repeated changes make when they happen every single day.

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