What’s stopping you?

7 February 2026

By Linda Ferguson

The people who arrive at NLP Canada Training are often ready to get to know themselves better. But I wonder about the people who don’t make it into the workshops. Do they think that digging deeper means uncovering all the sore spots? Do you think that self discovery means diagnosing what is wrong with you?

This is probably the biggest stumbling block. The only way to get better at anything is to develop a better knowledge of the skills and strengths you already have. These are foundational to every activity and to all of your success.

But exploring yourself can feel risky. Many people believe that they will open up old wounds or uncover the parts of themselves they would rather not think about. They are afraid of themselves, afraid they are not good enough. And that leads to unpredictable behaviour and predictably erratic results.

Whatever is scary in you is something you are already living with. You don’t have to be scared you can’t handle you: you’ve always handled you. When you are curious about yourself (instead of judging yourself), you will find unexpected strengths and perspectives that open up new possibilities for your. You might find passion, or purpose, or peace. But you will only find them if you have the courage to look inside.

The self discovery we lead at NLP Canada Training is supported and positive and hopeful. It leaves people with a new light in their eyes and renewed courage for facing their challenges.

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