Slow Down to Speed Up

21 May 2023

By Linda Ferguson

Late spring woods

In Canada, the Victoria Day long weekend is the real beginning of summer (it ends on Labour Day). It’s often a great opportunity to get outside, enjoy the sunshine and the plants, and feel yourself unwind.

What’s got you wound up? It could be that restless feeling that you have lots of ground to cover before you take a real break. Or that chaos of the end of the school year. Or maybe you’re doing the things you used to do but they just don’t feel the same as they used to.

You’re curious about what could be better and scared of making things worse. Your instinct might be to work harder or to play harder. But it’s possible you need something different.

It’s possible you need to be the kind of person who steps back, takes a few deep breaths, and opens up to whatever catches their attention. This kind of person trusts their bigger self to find what they need. They just have to step out of the chaos and let their thoughts settle.

This is extraordinarily hard to do, partly because other people rely on you to keep moving, and partly because there’s a voice in your head insisting you keep grinding through the work. Those motivations get the upper hand through most of the year.

But this is early summer. Nice weather still catches your attention. Warmth hits you between the shoulder blades and says, “Hey there. I’ve got you.”

Let your mind wander. Let yourself dream. You’re not taking a break. You’re growing.

Share this post:

Related posts

Senior woman engaging in self-development activities with NLP training tools.
15 October 2026

Self-Development after 60

What does self-aware mean at 60 and beyond? It means being able to experience your fullest, best self at the same time that you can step back and see that self moving through unchosen transitions. Where will you live? Who will matter most to you from one day to the next? What purpose will call to you? Who will you be as you become untethered from the identities that preoccupied you while you were building a family and career? Think of all the things you wanted to do and all the things you wanted to be “if only you had time.” Think about grandparenting (not necessarily of biological grandchildren) and the role that elders play in supporting the young (probably not with advice). Think about the self that connects all the different people you have been and will be.
A lush green tree with a sturdy trunk against a blue and white background.
6 October 2026

The risks of waiting for a better time

If it doesn’t really matter to you, don’t sweat it. Don’t put it off for a better time. Put it aside. But if you think it might matter to you, find a way to do it now. Despite its endless pressures and distractions, now is the better time.
Martial artists sparring
19 September 2026

Rolling with the punches

If you want to win the rapport game, you need to know more than how to reflect what you observe in someone else. You need to know how to reflect, gain attention, and then move to a more useful state. That more useful state needs to use the energy present in a new way and in a new direction. People learn to box and roll with the punches. They learn aikido. They can also learn to counter their intuitions and connect in difficult situations without amplifying conflict. It’s easier with a skilled teacher and lots of practice.