Prepare to make better choices

21 April 2024

By Linda Ferguson

Late spring woods

If you had to give an important presentation or compete in a tournament, you would prepare. You’d probably think about what you were eating and drinking, how you were sleeping and exercising, and the skills and resources you would need to be ready to go.

How do you prepare for making an important decision? Thinking and decision-making are skills, no different than the skills you use to compete or perform in other fields. If you want to ensure your thinking is your best possible thinking, you need to prepare.

Preparing means recognizing when you are your best self, the self you want to make choices for you.

Better weather is ahead. You will probably be outside more often and your schedule might include more time with friends and family. The light will last long into the evening, and even when working, you might feel you have more time.

If summer sounds good, maybe your best self is waiting there for you. What decisions will you want your best self to make for you? Set your intention and begin to gather information. Then wait for your best and clearest self and let that be the self who chooses

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