Make a Difference to Give Yourself a Boost

You might need a break. But what’s the best way to recharge when you are tired or stressed, or worried? You’ll see a lot of posts about self-care on the internet. But you might find it’s not enough for you. We all tend to overestimate what we can do on our own. We are social […]

Navigating Conflict Between Short-Term and Long-Term Goals

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2023. Whatever is going on in your life, today is the start of something. It’s just a page in the calendar, but it’s also the beginning of a season for the kind of hard work that makes change happen. You’ll have two kinds of goals right from the start of […]

3 Cures for Overwhelm: Altruism, Gratitude & Agency

Are you feeling a little scrambled and maybe more than a little tired? It’s been a strange fall and many people are feeling like they just can’t deal with one more thing. They made it through COVID and now there’s inflation and strikes and viruses everywhere. You can watch a Raptors game or got to […]

3 Powerful Questions: What if? What else? What next?

It seems like an easy manipulation of language. You say, “what if. . .” Like magic, you discount the way things are and explore the way they could be. There’s a but, of course. When you are confronted by something you have accepted so long that it feels inevitable, it’s hard to imagine difference. There […]

Practice Makes Ready

When you practice with us, we encourage you to set positively framed goals because those goals become good friends. They bring out the best in you as soon as you commit to them and throughout your journey to achieve them. But the positive goals of NLP training can be hard to grasp until you do […]

Attention is an expensive currency

Your brain exists to manage your energy budget. It keeps you alive by monitoring your use of resources so that you always have something left in case of emergency. The unconscious processes driven by the brain do two things: 1) scan for trouble and 2) jump to conclusions. Neither of these are good for paying attention. Attention is expensive (to your brain) and to give it to just one thing at a time is to risk missing something.

Groups Reflect Your Strengths

The same interests that draw people into NLP (neurolinguistic programming) are often the reasons they resist the need for group training. It’s not always obvious why you need to train with a group to develop better self awareness and better self control. It seems obvious that those require time alone with a coach or therapist. […]

Betting on Yourself Means Practice

There’s research on the difference between people who always need the best and people who always need to meet their own criteria. The first group are called maximizers: they are often exhausted by the need to explore all possibilities before making a choice. The others are called satisficers: on the whole, they make choices with […]

Keep Working at It

You probably know a version of the story where you fall in love at first sight with a handsome prince, or the one where you work hard to deserve true love, the story where you travel far to follow your heart or the one where it turns out your true love has been with you […]

Realism Needs to Partner With Dreams

“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” George Bernard Shaw Somehow we have come to see realism and dreams as opponents. Most of the time, we talk as though being reasonable and practical are […]