You’ve probably heard that mindset makes a real difference in what people are able to achieve. A growth mindset means believing that you are capable of learning. With a growth mindset, you see every failure as an opportunity to learn something useful. This is why people with a growth mindset are unstoppable: they learn by winning and they learn by failing.
What drives all that learning is a sense that there are things worth knowing. You can think of this as having a purpose for your life. Although you might spend your whole life trying to identify and articulate that purpose, you know it is real. You know that purpose is the thing that ties together all the good choices you have made and all the positive influence you will have. Your purpose is so compelling, so worth it, that it drives you to learn from every win and from every mistake.
Neurolinguistic programming is results-based process. Although NLP itself is rooted in making observable change to get predictable results, the techniques of NLP allow us to observe how successful people use concepts and curiosity in unpredictable ways. Purpose may not be something observable or something that can be defined. But we can observe the results when people choose to connect with a sense of purpose and use it to drive their choices.
How can you connect to something you can neither observe through your senses nor define in words? Your experience is not limited to rational thought. You live as an integrated system of thought, emotion, physiology and unconscious processes. You connect to purpose by noticing the impact that connection has on what you notice in you and around you. Your attention changes as your connection to purpose changes, and the change in attention shows up in your senses (you see and hear differently), in your body (you feel physically more aligned and energetic), and in your thoughts (you focus on what is possible). This focus then calls up experiences and strengths that have been resting in memory and makes them available to influence your choices and behaviours.
The focus, alignment and positive attitude associated with this connection to purpose also drives better connections with the people around you. All human beings are sensitive to the attitudes of the people around them. When you project an attitude of optimism and a definite sense of direction, you become more charismatic. People want to connect with you, either because they share those attitudes or because they need them.
As people connect with you, you can learn from them, from their skills and their experience and their attitudes. You become more resourceful because you are part of a network of resources. You connect with people to further your purpose. That means connecting to find and amplify strengths. You will be surprised at how often you find exactly what you need now in someone who connects with you.
Finally, connecting to your purpose drives you to focus on what is important and let habit take care of the rest. Your brain and mind are designed to work in patterns: they store useful sequences of stimuli and responses and repeat as much as possible. There are many things in each day that do not require your conscious attention. You can condition yourself to let automatic processes run wherever they are useful so that all of your attention and creativity and willpower is available where you need it most.
When you know what you want, your mind is amazingly good at finding what you need to move forward. It uses all the resources available in your brain, your body and your network to take small steps that lead to big process. Optimism begins with a focus: something you want enough to look for it in the world and in yourself. Connecting to your purpose is the root of great results.