How to get yourself to do stuff (20 minutes)
NLP (neurolinguistic programming) is the art of turning language into action. In this longer episode (20 minute) Linda walks you through the four stages that transform an idea into something you do to get a result you like. You can get more background on NLP and more details about the four stages by reading this Free E-book.
Figure Out What You Want (in about 5 minutes)
Much of the work we do as coaches consists of helping people figure out what it is they want. In this 5 minute audio, you'll get a chance to think about three important questions:
- When you think about what you want next, what is non-negotiable?
- How have you been following your values in the choices you've been making about what to do (and what not to do)?
- Where do you want to be in 2022 and what do you have to do now to get there (hint: start with being clear and vivid when you think about 2022)
You Can Hold Both Failure and Its Antidote in Your Hand
I bet you've failed at something, and I bet you hated the experience. When we think of our failures, they can sting, even years after they happened. That sting gets in our way: it stops us from pushing past limits and learning and trying new things.
Avoiding failure is a bad plan; it's impossible most of the time and even when you think it's working, you are limiting yourself to what you already know and what you can already do. A better plan is to approach failure with grit: the combination of purpose and perseverance that allows you to genuinely experience each failure as one more step toward solving a problem or reaching an achievement.
This exercise takes just 6 minutes to reframe your failure and open up new possibilities.
We frequently meet resistance from people we live with, work with, want to maintain a relationship with. When we do, our flow is interrupted and we experience a moment of confusion. Then our natural response is to mirror the resistance we are meeting. The result is that our resistance builds their resistance and we both get stuck.
A better strategy is to let the surprise you feel when you meet resistance slingshot you out to a bigger picture, where you can see yourself and the other person in your situation. From way out there, you are less tempted to mirror the resistance and more tempted to explore what just happened. When you notice you are feeling curiosity, you can drop down into the other person's experience to uncover possible motivations that are driving their attention and engagement (not necessarily their resistance). Then you're ready to get back into your own skin and mirror the motivation (not the resistance). This allows you to amplify the desire to get moving (that's what motivation is) and look for new ways forward together.
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How to clear your head
Take about 10 minutes and think first about why you might want to clear your head. Is it crammed with different priorities and information? Is it too full of past experience to move toward a better future? Maybe you need to let go of old learning to accelerate your progress in a new situation.
Follow Linda's voice as she leads you through the layers of movement and perception that will leave you calm, refreshed, curious, and ready to perceive new information.